Skills & Strategies Used in LIT
- 1. Venting/Expressing: Sometimes we’re not even sure what’s causing our stress, what’s causing us to not feel as good as we want to feel. It can be useful to vent and express ourselves freely and without judgment in order to move beyond the frustrations we’re experiencing. In allowing ourselves to vent and express, we may find various stressful events and thoughts to work through using LIT.
- 2. Self Acceptance: Venting and expressing can help us to recognize and accept the stressful thoughts and emotions we’re experiencing, and maybe even deeper underlying thoughts/emotions that had not previously surfaced. We don’t need to judge ourselves or others for negative thoughts and emotions, we can simply accept that they occur when our basic needs are not met. We can even recognize that the troubling thoughts and emotions can be used for positive growth and development.
- 3. Active Listening: Active Listening is crucial when doing LIT with a partner. To listen attentively without judgment, patiently, and quietly is necessary when allowing others to explore, sort through, organize and express their thoughts. Identifying the speaker’s emotions and asking for clarity, as well as other questions, can be useful tools for the listener.
- 4. Re-framing: From venting, self acceptance and active listening (when doing partner work), we (either the speaker, the listener or both) can re-frame the negative thoughts/emotions in terms of getting basic needs met. For example, if I’m irritated because someone became angry and yelled at me during a discussion, I can reframe the incident and recognize that the person yelled because they were trying to get a basic need met, namely the need(s) to be heard or understood. They were likely yelling because they felt I simply wasn’t understanding or hearing their point, and this was frustrating to them. When a conflict like this occurs, we then need…
- 5. Compassion: Compassion allows me to relate to another person’s passion, or feeling/emotion. It allows me to understand and experience (at least to some extent) where they’re coming from. With compassion I can realize that everyone is just like me — trying to get their needs met — and that we all make mistakes along the way.
- 6. Understanding We all Make Mistakes/Have Lessons to Learn: Mistakes are lessons, and we all have things to learn. Some lessons are harder than others, and create alot of harm and difficulties for ourselves and others. Other lessons come much more easily. We’re living in a time when big mistakes are being made and big lessons are being learned. To find peace and move beyond anger, fear and grief, more compassion is required.
- 7. Finding Inspiration from a peaceful, joyful state of mind: When I’m able to cut through the anger, fear and sadness using LIT, I’m able to avoid simply reacting to those negative emotions and find deeper, clearer inspiration from a peaceful state of mind. I find that if I react from the negative emotions, I tend to create more of that negativity in my relationships, and this never results in a peaceful state of mind. But if I create from the inspiration that arises from peace and joy and happiness, then I find my experiences contain more of these positive influences.
"I came to the Light Inside Technique with a heavy heart and a lot of emotional baggage. But after just a few sessions, I felt a tremendous shift in my energy and a newfound sense of peace within myself."
- Anonymous
- Anonymous
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