Feeling bad about yourself? Feeling unworthy of love or friendship? Feeling guilty about things you’ve done in the past? Feeling like your personality is just too flawed for you to be able to fit in with the rest of society? These thoughts and feelings can arise for different reasons. Whatever the reasons, feeling and thinking […]

If passion and inspiration are not used in a way that satisfies the personality, this can leave the person depressed, anxious and frustrated. Are you aware of your passion? Are you aware of the thing(s) that inspire you? I recently talked to a friend who often says he is not happy. He tends to keep […]

Recent conversations have reinforced for me how flexible the mind can be. Taking a certain perspective and entertaining different thoughts can leave us either stressed and at odds with others, or compassionate and sympathetic to our fundamental needs and desires. The thoughts and perspectives we choose regarding events from the past or present can leave […]

LIT is a philosophy and a practice. The philosophy let’s us take a positive, uplifting perspective on life and creation. It sees the primary underlying animating force of everything as love. Love is the spirit that moves us all. Where there’s love there’s harmony, cooperation, integration and play. We see this everywhere and in everything. […]

The Light Inside Technique makes good use of inquiry, the process of asking questions in order to find the positive motivation behind all action and speech. I and others have found that through this process of inquiry we can find that we all do what we do because we ultimately want love and peace of […]

What is spirituality? I started wondering what people meant by this term when I was in my twenties. I would hear that a certain person was very spiritual and I wondered what that meant. I’m still not sure, to be honest. I did continue to think about it over the years though, and I’ve come […]

In this post I’ll have to exercise some humility. I went through a drive-thru not too long ago and a young lady took my order. She was friendly and talkative, so I asked if she was a student at the local university. She was. She said she was studying criminology, and in an instant I […]

Yesterday I watched the old video of a man who was attempting to snatch a lady’s pocketbook while she sat on a public bus. The bus was stopped with it’s door open while folks were entering, paying the bus driver the bus fee after climbing the three steps. As people are entering, you can see […]

Nobody’s perfect. We never will be. There’s always something to learn, and making mistakes — getting things wrong — is a crucial part of the learning process. Accepting this can make life a lot easier. The Light Inside Technique makes use of both the positive and negative forces that make us who we are, ultimately making all our experiences useful for growth and self development.

In terms of our actions, what’s right and what’s wrong, and how do we determine that? The Light Inside Technique has a specific way of helping the individual find this answer for themselves. As I’ve said elsewhere, if I think, speak or act from a state of anger, anxiety or sadness/grief, I see those qualities increase in myself and in others. It’s pretty simple… Just think of times you’ve acted out of anger. What kind of response did you get? Probably not a response you wanted. And if I allow myself to follow a train of thought inspired by sadness, more sadness and frustration and anxiety build up in my mind.

If we want peace of mind, and to be inspired from that peace and joy that we find within ourselves, we have to somehow find forgiveness. We have to learn not just to forgive others, but also ourselves, for the offenses that we’ve committed toward others and toward ourselves. I talk to so many people who say they wish they could go back in time and do everything differently. I’m the same. I’ve wanted exactly the same opportunity to go back and make better choices, for my own benefit and for the benefit of others.

“If you don’t like something, change it; if you can’t change it, change the way you think about it.” – Mary Engelbreit What a brilliant statement by Mary Engelbreit. If there’s something we can improve about a bad situation, then of course do it. If we can’t change it, then we have to take a new perspective by changing our thoughts about it. Further, we can’t change the past, and at least to a certain extent we can’t change people and circumstances. What we can change is the way we think about them. Every circumstance, event and thought (about past, present or future) can be used as an opportunity for creating a new, positive mental habit of seeing the good in things. This is possible by virtue of neuroplasticity.

Here’s a practice I’ve mentioned in other posts. I call it Seeing the Good in Things, or STG for short (Seeing The Good). Keeping in mind basic needs, the most basic being positivity, look around and see how much beauty and positivity you can find in your environment. This is just a simple practice to reinforce the mind’s habit to find positivity wherever we are. We are creatures of habit, so why not make it a habit to see the good wherever we might be.

In any relationship, whether it’s romantic, friendly, business, or any other kind, it’s easy to take on the role of a victim and feel disrespected, unappreciated and undervalued. In romance we might feel we’ve been used, taken advantage of, manipulated and mistreated. In friendships and familial relationships we may feel neglected, ignored or taken for granted. In business we might feel unappreciated, undervalued, underrated or belittled.